How Long to Mourn: Stages of Grief

Someone close to you has passed away. And with them, an imprint on your daily life has disappeared.

Grief can come like a wave. Sometimes even as a silence that can be heard. You may wonder how long it will be present. Maybe you just want to know that what you are feeling is okay.

And you may also be wondering: How long will it last? How long should I hold on to my grief?

Experiences may differ

Everyone grieves differently. Some people dress in darker shades and avoid large social events. Some find solitude helpful, others find conversation and the presence of loved ones helpful. Some take the time to say goodbye and thank you very slowly. Others accept the situation more quickly and move on with their lives.

That’s all right. Grief has no form, no rules, and no end date on the calendar. It has its own rhythm – the one you need.

Where are the boundaries?

You don’t have to “follow the rules” and grieve for a certain number of days. If it’s better for you to have a time frame, give yourself a range of 4-6 weeks. During those days, let your time and thoughts flow. And if you need more after that time frame, that’s okay.

What can help

• Don’t avoid emotions – both painful and joyful ones

Allow yourself to experience the passing of a loved one with all that goes with it. Memories, music, familiar streets, or anything else can trigger your emotions. Experience them.

• Get used to the new reality

You have already said goodbye to your loved one. New days are coming. They may seem challenging, but you will feel the difference every day.

• Gradually accept that life goes on

Memories never fade. Don’t be afraid to let go of the sadness and move on.

Time does not heal, but it transforms

Maybe one day you’ll find that grief isn’t as hard as it used to be. That you can breathe differently. And maybe even move on. That doesn’t mean the loss is any less. It just means the story continues.

Don’t be alone

Your family and friends can be a source of support. You don’t have to experience important days (anniversaries, birthdays) alone. Your loved ones will be happy to share memories or new traditions with you. Do something that would please the deceased. Let the legacy continue.

If you feel that this time is beyond your strength, ask for a professional helping hand. Psychological help or counselors for survivors may be the right thing.

If you are looking for support, silent listening, or want to talk, we are available to you at +420 800 176 423.

PEGAS. In silence we remain.